Why Would a Man Cry to Get You Back

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He Cries, But Not in Front of You

Closet sobbers have been taught that boys shouldn't cry. "This often leads to the
suppression of other emotions — even happy ones, such as love — in your presence
too," says William July, PhD, author of Understanding the Tin Man. "The feelings
he might think are most acceptable to show are anger and sexual arousal." Though
sensitive at his core, he needs your support and compassion to begin thawing
on the outside. If you notice he's quieter than usual, ask him if something's wrong
at work. Even if that's not the problem, he'll be more inclined to reveal what's
upsetting him if you open the door. It won't happen overnight, but as trust increases,
so should his expressions of emotion. Deep down, this guy has a need to impress,
which is why he doesn't like to reveal any chinks in his armor. Your job is to make it
clear that tenderness is one of the qualities you prize in a guy.

Butch Hogan

He's Always Stoic

This may come as a surprise,
but a man who's not in touch
with his feelings will always
put yours first. "Because
he wants to come off as tough
and manly, his primary
concern will be protecting
you and making sure you're
secure," says Scott Kudia,
PhD, author of If This Is Love,
Why Am I Unhappy? And since
this guy is so uncomfortable
with displaying his emotions,
there won't be much drama,
meaning he'll handle most
problems calmly.

The drawback is that he
may have trouble showing
depth of emotion — verbally
and physically. "Encourage
him to slow down during
intimate times — like in bed,"
says Kudia. "Tell him you
think it's sexy when a guy lets
down his guard." If he feels
that his alpha-male standing
won't be compromised, he
may loosen up a bit, but he's
never going to walk around
with a hankie in his pocket.

Butch Hogan

He Bawls Out of Frustration

When things don't go his
way, this guy responds by
having a mini meltdown.
"Don't mistake his tears for
sensitivity though," warns
psychologist George
Weinberg, PhD, author of
Why Men Won't Commit.
"He just never learned to
express himself any other
way, so he deals by crying,
which is how the body
purges toxic emotions.
And when it comes to sex,
he needs reassurance."

The best way to handle
him: Ignore his freak-outs,
but acknowledge his
feelings, and couch your
sexual desires as
compliments. Lastly,
you may suggest he see
a counselor for new,
healthier ways to cope.

Butch Hogan

He's Not Shy About Shedding Tears

If your guy is the type to get watery-eyed during very
emotional situations — or even during the occasional
sappy moment (read: while watching a sad movie) — you
have a keeper. "This is a well-balanced man who is
secure enough in his masculinity to be emotional,"
explains Kudia. "He is likely to be a good communicator
and has no problem letting you know how he feels, either
with words or displays of affection."

Because he's in touch with his own emotions, this guy
will probably be able to better intuit yours. For example,
if you want him to take the next step in the relationship
or switch up the bedroom routine, he'll sense it. And if he
doesn't, a subtle suggestion is all it will take to effect
change since pleasing you is a major motivator for him.

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Why Would a Man Cry to Get You Back

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